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    We hope you'll join us Sunday mornings at 8:15 am or 10:45 am for worship. Our worship style is contemporary, with a programming balance of praise songs and traditional hymns of the Church. Our message each week presents the gospel of grace as it relates to our salvation and to our relationships with God and each other. Sunday School classes meet each week at 9:30 am.

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    Each week, we offer a Discover OMPC Adult Discipleship class at 9:30 am. This is the perfect class to attend if you are interested in learning more about OMPC. Normally on Sunday evenings our Senior Pastor, Bob Flayhart, leads a Newcomer's Life Group at 5:30 pm. This group will resume this Fall.


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    8:15 AM | Intimate Service with Unplugged Music
    10:45 AM | Contemporary with a Vibrant Environment
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    5080 Cahaba Valley Trace
    Birmingham, AL 35242 Get Directions
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Showing Grace as a Way of Life: January

Pursuing people’s hearts through exploring their story is our January step in Showing Grace as a Way of Life.

If you have shown grace in a natural sphere of life and prayed for the people God puts on your heart, then it’s time to begin exploring your friends’ stories!

Let’s think about exploring a friend’s story in 3 aspects: LAUNCHING, LISTENING, and RESPONDING.

LAUNCHING – In settings where you naturally converse, ask questions to learn the basic facts of your friend’s life.

  • Where are you from?
  • Where did you go to school?
  • What do you do?
  • Tell me about your family?
  • What do you enjoy doing in your free time?
  • I’ve noticed you’re really good at _______.

Launching with genuine interest in people should grow continuously in our lives, but remember, it’s only involves 1% of the talking! You are launching so you can listen.

After short exchanges where you learn basic facts about your friend, try arranging a time and place where you can hear more. That opportunity might be over coffee, over lunch, a meal in your home or a restaurant you both have wanted to try, going to see a movie and talking about it afterwards, a business trip, a road trip to a concert or sporting event, fishing, or some other shared activity that affords conversation. The setting needs to match you and your friend.

Launching to learn more at this level might begin with requests or questions like:

  • Tell me more of your story.
  • What was it like growing up in _____________ for you?
  • What has been your career path?
  • Who has influenced most how you do life?
  • What have been major turning points in your life?

Also, be aware of crisis events people experience. You may demonstrate your care by presence at a hospital, funeral, providing a meal. Also, following up and checking in with someone after a death in the family, a health crisis, a new birth, news of an impending divorce, job loss, or other emotional struggles offers you an opportunity to show grace at a very tender place in your friend’s life.

LISTENING – This is 97% of your role in exploring a friend’s story! After you ask a launching question you largely just need to shut up and LISTEN!

Listen with these goals in mind:

  • To genuinely understand their story
  • To affirm the significance of their story
  • To feed in your friend a sense of safety with you and desire to be known
  • To discern traces of the gospel story line in their lives
  • CREATION – your friend’s abilities, gifts, passions, areas of flourishing
  • FALL -- your friend’s struggles, hardships, wounds
  • REDEMPTION – your friend’s ways of dealing with their struggles, hardships, wounds
  • RESTORATION – your friend’s dreams and hopes for their life

If you truly desire is to listen genuinely, affirm their story, feed their sense of safety, and discern traces of God’s story in their story, these non-verbal listening skills will help:

  • Eye to eye
  • Ears alert
  • Heart engaged
  • Face that reflects what is shared
  • Spirit at rest and not pushy

If you are an introvert, this is actually your dream! You get to be quiet and attentive! If you are an extrovert, you are going to need to let go of being the center of attention! Be comfortable with silence. LISTEN!

RESPONDING – Responding while listening and after listening is 2% percent of the process but is a huge relational investment. Responding while listening involves questions that explore further and affirming replies. Responding after listening brings closure and opens the door for more conversation down the road.

If someone shares something you find significant and would like to understand more, offer an opportunity with questions like:

  • What was that like?
  • Can you tell me more about that?
  • How did that impact you?
  • Why was that significant for you?

If someone is not ready to respond, give them permission to not share more. But if a friend risks vulnerability, brief, affirming replies help them know they are not crazy but safe. You can offer them affirmation in words that feel natural to you. For me, its things like:

  • Wow!
  • Really!?
  • That’s amazing!
  • That sounds really hard.
  • That makes sense to me.
  • I can’t imagine!
  • I can identify with that.

Finally, when the opportunity for exploring a friend’s story comes to an end, responding involves appreciation, affirmation, and offering for further dialogue when appropriate.

  • Appreciation: Thanks for sharing this with me.
  • Affirmation: You have a profound story.
  • Offering: I’d like to hear more at some point.

The beautiful dynamic that develops when you explore a friend’s story is–you grow in compassion for them, and their heart is warmed to you!

Posted: 1.28.2016 in Outreach Ministry Share:

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5080 Cahaba Valley Trace
Birmingham, AL 35242
info@ompc.org   (205) 995-9265

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